1. Engage in Positive Self Talk

We must get the inner voice to be on our side.

Engaging in positive self talk means speaking into existence acts of self consideration and awareness. Our thoughts have the power to invalidate our most intuitive senses. This step will support with training our thoughts to be in the service of our visions to heal, create, and instinctively continue on in our journeys. Beating ourselves up to do or be better is not positive self talk!

The trick is knowing (and accepting) what’s going on for you in a particular moment and getting your thoughts to coach you through it. It’s having the grace to know we’re constantly growing, unlearning and re-knowing.

 A week after I was raped, I hosted a paint party with my closest friends (pictured: The wall of my childhood bedroom I lived in up until 3 years ago). I had everyone paint me a positive message to put on my wall so I would see it as soon as I woke up (the mornings were and continue to be sensitive.)  The signs say "You are a bird, not a burden" (that was mine!), "You don't need outward symmetry when you have inner harmony" (my bffs collaborated on the butterfly), "You better work, if not TWERK!", "My self worth is a gift to earth" (a close friend painted a favorite song lyric of mine!) and a "L" with traits about me starting with L (My boo did that one for me- it's 3-D!)

A week after I was raped, I hosted a paint party with my closest friends (pictured: The wall of my childhood bedroom I lived in up until 3 years ago). I had everyone paint me a positive message to put on my wall so I would see it as soon as I woke up (the mornings were and continue to be sensitive.)  The signs say "You are a bird, not a burden" (that was mine!), "You don't need outward symmetry when you have inner harmony" (my bffs collaborated on the butterfly), "You better work, if not TWERK!", "My self worth is a gift to earth" (a close friend painted a favorite song lyric of mine!) and a "L" with traits about me starting with L (My boo did that one for me- it's 3-D!)

 

You’re doing it when:

  • You ask “What do I need right now?”, or “What’s the healthiest way for me to process this right now?”
     

  • You open up to possibilities of love, joy and growth in each moment, especially when things don’t go your way. You are coaching yourself before the challenges.
     

  • You use non-toxic inner dialogue to get through difficult moments. You catch where you’re putting yourself down and replace it with a positive affirmation and follow through. 

Indigo’s Insight:
When I identified that I had the power to change the way I spoke to myself, It felt like a new presence had surfaced. A badass fiery diva who was going to look out for me and love me passionately at all times. I started testing this positive self talk thing at a volleyball game last year. Before serving the ball, the voice inside me usually said “Don’t mess this up, Mateo!” I changed the voice to say “There’s no reason why you’d miss this.” then one day it evolved to “You are a champion!”. The thoughts changed my form, follow-through, focus and confidence. It made me wonder what other aspects of my life would this work for? 

 

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