Accepting help from others is one way to send signals of worthiness to your mind. Many people who go through troubling times have a hard time finding themselves worthy of other people’s time, energy, resources and money.
As long as you are willing to accept what others give you regarding support getting through your situation, then it is never in vain. Not only is it good practice to ask for help where you need it, but also accept help where you didn’t know you needed it. Let yourself be receptive to all the elements of healing that your mind, body and soul are yearning for.
Ways to let us love you:
Broaden your perspective on how people can support you. It can be time, energy or resources. Don’t be so quick to turn down offers and be comfortable asking for help.
Stay open to the possibility of being lifted up, without beating yourself up for being “too much”. When your friend says something positive about you say “I receive it” instead of “Bitch, I’m a mess!” lol
Recognize and remember all the times you helped someone out and felt great about being a contribution. Now it’s someone’s opportunity to be that for you!
It was in college when a vulnerable moment unleashed the epiphany of a lifetime: The molestation I experienced at the age of 4 was deserving of more attention than silence and punishment. My friend had me over and made it clear that she was there to listen to me. I disclosed to her about what I experienced as a kid and that the incident was hidden from my family members, which made the harm done to me feel diminished and swept under the rug. I vividly remember sitting on my homegirl’s red couch our sophomore year and she sternly looked at me affirming, “You were worth the family breaking apart… You were worth your dad breaking shit and everything being a mess. Fuck that.” It was her words that snapped me out of being a victim and re-introduced me to my innate worthiness. She reminded me of my inner warrior and the stakes of my safety. She stood up for my inner child in a way I didn’t know how to yet. I didn’t know I needed an ear about that tucked away memory, but I did.